The Hunted Sex: Why Men Are The Prey In An Eroticized Culture


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A deep panting was breathed in the dank darkness, matched with the heavy breathing of a dozen more shadowy figures. A low snarl echoed off the cave walls as the bared teeth and mane of a fierce lion emerged into the light. While believing that he was safe in the center of the room where the only light penetrated from some unseen source in the ceiling, the danger became palpable. The teeth of this beast glistened from the coating and drops of saliva slipping out between its teeth and falling to the dust in long dangling strings. The snaring muzzle of the beast quaked up and down, a sign of rage and hunger mingled together. The other carnivores inched forward, eager to make a swift kill and a quick snack of my friend, who had fallen into this lions’ den.

At least this is the image he has given when describing the sexual urges he feels. Entrapped and ensnared, women were looking to destroy and devour him.

It is common and cliché to speak of men struggling with sex, pornography, and the “wandering eye.” The pervading cultural image of men is as carnivore, hunter, and one “hungary like the wolf” seeking out his prey and making the kill. However, this view is myopic at best.

Many men feel entrapped and surrounded by sexual desire and the scantily clad vixens of our day. It is within the cultural norm for women to bear more skin and to parade their previously confined bodies once the cold of winter has ended.

Not simply done because of the temperature, many women—for themselves, other women, or for men—want to dress desirably and hyper-sexualized. Short-shorts, short-skirts, and often even skimpier tops, many men feel hunted rather than hunting. They feel as if they are being stalked rather than doing the stalking.

Popular “self-help” books crop-up for men, giving advise on how to deal with such temptations and surroundings. “Every Man’s Battle” advises men to “bounce” their eyes whenever noticing a desirous women. As a culture hyper-saturated with sex, from billboards, television, magazines, and the general population, “bouncing” becomes impractical if not impossible.

Still others have turned to more drastic solutions. Some communities and friends isolate themselves from the wider culture; no television, no contemporary music, and not allowing themselves the pleasures of some locations—such as never visiting the beaches of California due to the abundance of flesh and desire on display (a difficult restraint for So. Cal. locals).

These methods of coping amount to the covering of one’s eyes and pretending that what lies just beyond their sight does not exist. The solution to such a hyper-sexualized culture is neither clear nor simple.

Some women hunt and entice. Some men prowl for women to devour. But collectively Western culture has become a hyper-sexualized society enticed, pushing, and controlled by its own erotomania.

Those who resist or wish to resist this cultural element often become artifacts of oddity. The backward people who don’t watch television or the women who dress “frumpily” modest are often looked down upon with disregard or scorn. How might one not be controlled by their sexual desires and the desires of others?

The goal might be to see women, men, and all people as God sees them—not as sexual objects but as those who bare the image of God himself. Easier said than done.


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  • Great blog Jon.  Looking at people the way Christ sees them has to be the change of heart that occurs.  It is indeed a life-long battle.

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